The Waiting Room
Your score was highest on the statements about commitment and permanence.
Boxes not unpacked. Money on your living space feeling wasteful. A sense of waiting to see how things settle before committing to anything.
This is a protective response and it does a job. When a lot has just been taken apart, not investing in the next thing is a way of not being caught out again. Entirely understandable.
Where it becomes costly is that it extends past furniture. Holidays not booked. Applications not sent. People not called back, because who knows where things will be in a year.
The difficulty is that there's no signal that the waiting is over. No letter arrives. Men run provisional arrangements for three or four years and then recognise that the temporary setup was simply their life, and they'd been living it the whole time.
If any of that landed, it's worth a conversation. Half an hour, no charge, and no obligation at the end of it. I'll ask you some questions and you can decide whether talking to me regularly would help.
I'm Trevor. My own marriage ended after twenty-four years, about eight years ago, and I spent a good while in the state you just read about. Now I coach men through this.